Visualization is a practice that athletes, performers, and successful business people have been using to will desired results and super-human feats for ages. With so much success in these areas, researchers have been curious about the application of visualization techniques on areas like health. The findings are overwhelmingly positive: visualization affects the body in positive ways we can measure.
There is a 2011 Huffpost article online by Belleruth Naparstek entitled the Science Behind Guided Imagery that summarizes a whole pile of medical studies that have found how guided imagery aka visualization can produce positive changes in immune system functioning at the cellular level in cancer patients and reduce stress hormones like cortisol. These studies aren’t fringe − privately-funded studies – that happen on communes deep in an Arizona energy vortex. These are studies being published in major medical journals that have led ultra conservative organizations like the American Cancer Society to list guided imagery as a ‘useful adjunct’ based on their findings.
So, let’s talk fertility. (Womb-free couples hang in visualization can help you too.) It’s common knowledge that stress negatively impacts fertility. Age-old advice to anyone having difficulty conceiving is just to relax. Right Susan!? Like you relax. Relaxing is easier said than done when shouldering trying to achieve something on your top 3 most important life achievements list for you and your partner. Lack of success can quickly bring on feelings of frustration and inadequacy that create a negative loop that further exacerbates infertility.
The hypothalamus − a little walnut in the middle of our brains − regulates both stress and fertility. From an evolutionary standpoint, our bodies aren’t designed to conceive during times of stress. In fact, our bodies work to make sure we don’t get pregnant under these conditions. Adrenalin − a stress hormone released when we’re stressed − actually stops us from using progesterone which is necessary for fertility. And Adrenalin further gets our pituitary glands pumping out prolactin which actually causes infertility. So Susan’s advice to relax isn’t entirely wrong. She just should have never used the word ‘relax’ and lead with how.
This is where visualization comes in.
Visualization does 3 things
- It helps your creative subconscious get activated. Activating your subconscious can help you find creative solutions to solve family planning problems. It can also strengthen your internal motivation, helping you take the necessary steps to achieve your goals.
- It helps you sync your energy and your goal. You can’t attract what you aren’t. This one is really important. If you want to attract positive things, you have to be positive and have a positive mind. When thinking about starting a family, think of it as if it were already happening.
- It activates the law of attraction. Bring into your life what you focus on. A known surrogate maybe?
So How Do You Visualize?
Step 1. Carve out 10 uninterrupted minutes, preferably right when you wake up or before you go to bed. If you meditate, right after your mediation is a great time too.
Step 2. Close your eyes; imagine yourself sitting at an outdoor movie. You’re comfortable in the grass. The movie starts, and it’s you in your ideal family situation. Imagine it in as much detail as you possiblely can. What are you wearing? What’s around you? What do you see? What do you smell? Who is around you? What do you hear? How do you feel in this scene you’ve created? Are you happy, smiling, feeling content? The emotions are the most important part; they align your energy to as if it were already happening. So, try to feel in your body how you might feel living your ideal family situation.
For those trying to conceive, another option is visualizing pregnancy. How does your belly feel? What would you be wearing? What would your feet look like? How does it feel when you walk? Really immerse yourself in the sensory experience.
Step 3. Get up out of the grass and walk into your movie. Experience your “movie” from inside yourself. See through your eyes. Be your main character. Look around the room. Explore the setting. Are there any sounds, plants in the room? Explore as many details as you can paying close attention to your feelings.
Step 4. Step outside of the movie once again. Now bring your fingers up in front of the screen and shrink it like you would an image on a touch screen device. Make it as small as possible until it’s small enough to breath in like a tiny little oxygen molecule. Now take a deep breath and inhale your perfect vision. Feel it go all the way through you energizing every cell in your body. That vision is now a part of you. Feel it deeply.
That’s it. Not as hard as you thought it might be to do something so powerful. For added value, create an affirmation you can repeat throughout the day.
Example: “I am a parent of two. Happily working from home. Enjoying watching my children play and grow.”
Repeating an affirmation a couple times a day can really help deepen your vision into your subconscious. Using the above step-by-step visualization technique once a day and repeating your affirmation in the morning and before bed will make your vision a part of your belief system and an automatic part of your thinking. This paired with the relaxing effects of practicing visualization techniques will put your body in its optimal state for conception.
So go on, see, and become your dream family.
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